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Digital Estate Planning — Handling Online Accounts After Death

Your parent has lived most of their life before the internet became essential. They have a checking account and maybe an investment account, physical documents in filing cabinets, and tangible property. But your parent also has email accounts, bank accounts they access online, subscriptions, social media profiles, cloud storage, and probably digital photos and documents you don't even know about.

When your parent dies, someone has to deal with all of it. But unlike the house or the bank accounts, your parent probably never thought about what should happen to their digital assets. The social media account that memorializes your parent, the email account that still receives messages, the subscription services that keep charging, the cloud storage that contains family photos. No will addresses these things. There's no instruction manual.

Digital estate planning means figuring out what digital assets your parent has, documenting passwords and account information somewhere safe, deciding what should happen to each account, and making sure that whoever handles your parent's estate can actually do what needs to be done.

Understanding Your Parent's Situation

Start by understanding what digital assets your parent actually has. This isn't about snooping. It's about practical information you'll need if your parent dies.

Does your parent have an email account? Which one, and what's the approximate password if you don't know it? Email is important because email is how you access and recover most other accounts. If someone dies and no one can access their email, accessing other accounts becomes incredibly difficult. Some companies won't reset passwords or give account access without email confirmation that you don't have.

Does your parent have online banking? Which bank, and how is it accessed? Does your parent do anything with the account online, or is that just a backup to the physical account? If your parent accesses retirement accounts online, subscription services, or anything else through a digital account, that's relevant.

Does your parent have social media accounts? Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, anything else? Some people have active social media presences. Some have dormant accounts they created years ago and never used. Both exist in your parent's digital life even if you don't think of your parent as a social media person.

Does your parent have photos, documents, or other files stored in the cloud? Google Drive, Dropbox, iCloud, OneDrive, anything else? Some of these might be important documents. Some might just be photos. Either way, they exist somewhere digitally.

Does your parent have subscriptions to digital services? Streaming services, news subscriptions, productivity software, anything else your parent pays for monthly? These keep charging after death unless someone cancels them.

Does your parent have online shopping accounts like Amazon? E-books or digital books purchased from Apple or Amazon? Loyalty programs or frequent flyer accounts that might have value?

The point of asking these questions isn't to invade your parent's privacy. It's to understand what exists. Your parent's email password, for instance, is practical information that helps you manage your parent's affairs after death. You don't need to know your parent's bank account balance, but you do need to know the account exists and how to access it.

Setting Financial Goals

Some of your parent's digital assets have financial value. Financial accounts obviously have value. Frequent flyer miles or loyalty points might have value. Digital books might have some minimal value. A social media following might have value if your parent was an influencer or someone with a substantial following, though most people's social media is just personal.

Most of these assets also have ongoing costs. Subscriptions keep charging. Email accounts might be associated with online storage that costs money. The question is whether the value justifies the effort to manage it or whether it's easier to just let certain accounts be.

The question isn't usually about the financial value but about the importance. A social media account might have minimal financial value but significant emotional value if it helps you stay connected to your parent's memory. A cloud storage account might have minimal financial value but tremendous personal value if it contains family photos.

You need to talk to your parent about what matters. Does your parent have a bank account online that controls real money, or is it just checking the account from home? Does your parent have social media that your parent actually uses and cares about, or is it an old account from years ago that your parent forgot about? Does your parent have important documents in the cloud, or is the cloud just backup storage that already exists in hard copy?

Your parent might have created accounts without really thinking about the future. Your parent might have meant to delete things and never got around to it. Your parent might not remember everything your parent signed up for. Understanding what's actively used and what your parent actually cares about helps prioritize.

Building Your Strategy

Create a document that lists your parent's digital assets. Include the account name, the service or company, the email address used for the account, and the password or password hint if applicable. This document should be treated like important documents: kept securely, updated periodically, and stored somewhere that's accessible to whoever handles your parent's affairs.

Some companies have policies about handling deceased users' accounts. Facebook allows you to memorialize an account or have it deleted. Google has a plan for your digital afterlife. Most banks will allow account access with proof of death and proper legal authority. Twitter will delete an account if requested with proper documentation. These policies exist, but you need to know what they are for your parent's specific accounts.

For financial accounts, there's usually a formal process. You'll present a death certificate, you'll provide legal authority if you're an executor or power of attorney, and the bank or investment company handles the account. This is routine and doesn't require special digital planning beyond what you already know.

For social media and other accounts, you need to decide what your parent would want. Does your parent want the account deleted? Memorialized? Left as is? Some people think of their social media as part of their memory and want it preserved. Others think of it as temporary and want it gone. Whatever your parent prefers, document it.

For subscriptions, you need to know they exist so you can cancel them and stop being charged. Sometimes you find subscriptions your parent forgot about. Sometimes they're small enough that canceling them takes just a few minutes and doesn't matter much financially. Sometimes they're substantial. Either way, you want to find them and address them rather than having your parent's credit card charged for years after your parent's death.

For cloud storage and important documents, you need access to them because they might be valuable. You might discover that your parent's entire photo archive is in the cloud and you'd hate to lose it. You might discover important documents, passwords to other accounts, or other information stored digitally.

A password manager might be a good investment for your parent if your parent has many accounts and passwords. Your parent enters all the passwords into one secure location, and you know where to find that information if something happens to your parent. Password managers like LastPass, 1Password, or Bitwarden can be shared with a trusted person or accessed after death with proper documentation.

Taking Action Now

Talk to your parent about digital estate planning. It's not a comfortable conversation, but neither is talking about wills and probate, and you're probably planning those things anyway. Digital is just another piece of it.

If your parent doesn't want to talk about passwords, that's okay. But encourage your parent to at least create a list of what accounts exist. Your parent doesn't have to share passwords with you now, but an executor or power of attorney will need them eventually.

If your parent already has important documents in the cloud, ask where they are. If your parent has life insurance, retirement accounts, or anything else accessed online, understand how to access those accounts or get that information to someone who needs it.

Create a digital assets document as part of your parent's estate planning. This can be as simple as a list of accounts with the email address and account type. This can be as detailed as a list of accounts with usernames, passwords, and instructions. Your parent should decide the level of detail they're comfortable with.

Store this document securely. Some people keep it in a safe deposit box with their will. Some keep it digitally but encrypted. Some keep it with their estate planning attorney. Wherever it's stored, the person who might need it should know where to find it.

Update this document every year or when significant changes happen. If your parent creates a new account, add it to the list. If your parent stops using something, remove it. Don't let it become outdated and misleading.

After your parent dies, this document becomes invaluable to whoever is handling the estate. Instead of wondering what accounts exist, you have a clear list. Instead of being locked out of essential accounts, you have access information. Instead of subscriptions charging indefinitely, you know what needs to be canceled.

Digital estate planning isn't complicated, but it is something most families don't think about. It takes minimal effort to do while your parent is alive and able to work with you on it, and it saves significant frustration and hassle afterward.

How To Help Your Elders is an educational resource. We do not provide medical, legal, or financial advice. The information in this article is general in nature and may not apply to your specific situation. If you are concerned about a loved one's cognitive health or safety, consult with their healthcare provider or contact your local Area Agency on Aging for guidance and support.