Managing home care agencies — expectations, quality, and turnover
This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, legal, or financial advice. Please consult appropriate professionals for guidance specific to your situation.
The phone call came on a Tuesday. The agency was calling to say that the caregiver I'd hired three weeks earlier wasn't coming back. No notice, no explanation, just gone. My mom was confused about who would be at her house the next morning, and I felt the familiar knot tighten in my chest: the sudden realization that I'd trusted my parent's daily care to someone I barely knew, and that someone was now gone. This is the thing nobody tells you about home care agencies. They're essential when you need them, sometimes infuriatingly imperfect, and almost always operating at the edge of their own chaos.
What made it worse was that I realized I didn't actually know what I was supposed to expect. Had I hired a caregiver or a nurse? Was the agency responsible for replacing them, or was that my problem? When I called to ask questions, I got transferred twice and ended up apologizing for being a bother. By the time someone called me back, I'd already started panicking about whether my mother was getting the right level of care at all.
Home care feels different from other services you hire because you're not just getting someone to do a job. You're inviting them into your parent's most intimate space. You're asking them to see your parent at their most vulnerable and to show up with competence and kindness. That's not something you can get right just by finding a lower price or calling the first agency in your list.
If you're at the stage of thinking about hiring home care, you're probably trying to hold several impossible things at once: the desire for your parent to stay at home, your own limits on what you can provide, the growing gap between what they need and what's available, and the financial reality of what this actually costs. This article is written from that messy place, where nothing is perfect but you still need to do something.
Understanding What You're Hiring
Here's what's important to understand upfront: a home care agency is a business that sells time and labor. That's not a judgment; it's just the transaction. The better you understand what you're actually paying for, the fewer surprises you'll have later.
When you hire through an agency, you're hiring the agency's system and credentials, not just the individual caregiver. That means the agency is responsible for screening, background checks, basic training, and replacing workers when they leave. That's valuable. It also means you're paying for all of that infrastructure, which is why agency care costs more than hiring someone privately. Some families decide private hire is the way to go to save money, but understand that you then become responsible for vetting, hiring, managing, and replacing that person yourself. There's no middleman to handle the administrative chaos.
When you call an agency, ask them clearly what services they're licensed to provide. In most places, home care aides aren't nurses. They can't distribute medications, create treatment plans, or perform medical procedures. If your parent needs wound care or medication management, you'll need a visiting nurse service, not just an aide. Some of the larger agencies offer both services, but make sure you understand the difference and that you're hiring the right level of care.
Your role in this is more important than it first appears. You're the quality control. You're the person who knows your parent, who can see changes, and who can catch problems. The agency can't do that work from their office. This means you're not hiring them and then stepping back. You're hiring them and staying engaged, asking questions, being the voice in the room that says something doesn't look right.
Talk directly with the agency about your parent's specific needs: mobility challenges, cognitive changes, dietary restrictions, hygiene challenges, medication complexity, behavioral concerns, previous caregiver relationships that worked or didn't work. The more detail you give them, the better person they can try to match to your parent. A good agency will push back if they think they can't meet your needs, or they'll tell you what gaps you'll need to fill with additional services. A bad agency will say yes to everything and then send someone inadequate.
Managing Quality and Consistency
The turnover in home care is real and relentless. Aides are typically paid less than they deserve, often without benefits, and the job involves work that's physically demanding and emotionally heavy. Some people burn out fast. Others move on to nursing school or a different career. Some find a family they love and stay for years. You can't control which is which, but you can structure things to make turnover less destabilizing.
The first few weeks with any caregiver are an audition period, though framing it that way feels harsh. What you're really doing is giving both your parent and the caregiver a chance to figure out if this works. Some people click immediately. Others just don't match. It's not personal, but it matters. If it's not working after a couple of weeks, tell the agency. Don't wait months hoping it will improve. A caregiver who isn't a good fit for your parent isn't helping anyone.
Once you've got someone in place, you need a communication system. This might be a notebook that lives by the sink where the caregiver writes down how your parent ate, whether they had bowel movements, any falls, any concerns. Or it might be text messages at the end of the shift. Or a simple phone call every other day. What matters is that information flows reliably between the person doing the care and you. You need to know what's actually happening.
Set clear expectations from the start about what the caregiver is responsible for. Is it just personal care and meals, or are they also tidying the house? Can they give your parent rides to appointments, or is that on you? Are they expected to do light housekeeping? Most agencies will have a job description, but it's worth having a separate conversation about your parent's specific setup. Don't assume anything.
Address problems early. If the caregiver is consistently late, if your parent says they weren't helped with a shower, if you notice your parent's clothes aren't changing, if medication is piling up, if your parent seems unhappy, you need to say something. Call the agency first, especially if it's a pattern. Most agencies want to know. They'd rather fix a problem than lose you as a client. If the agency doesn't respond to reasonable concerns, that's a red flag about the whole organization.
Some concerns are bigger than others. If your parent has a mark that could be from rough handling, or if money goes missing, or if your parent is afraid of the caregiver, that's an emergency. Those situations require immediate action: stop the care, contact the agency, and don't resume until you understand what happened.
When It's Not Working
There's a point where trying to make something work becomes choosing to ignore problems. Recognizing that point is harder than it should be.
Red flags that suggest it's time for a change include your parent consistently expressing unhappiness, a pattern of care tasks being skipped, the caregiver showing up late or unreliable, your parent's health declining without medical explanation, or the caregiver becoming defensive when you ask reasonable questions. Sometimes it's smaller things: a personality clash, your parent feeling like they're in the way of someone who's clearly annoyed, the caregiver spending their shift on their phone, or your parent's bathroom not being kept clean.
If you've tried addressing problems with the agency and nothing changes, it's time to switch providers or explore a different care model altogether. This is harder than it sounds because you're probably worried about disruption to your parent, the cost of starting over, or the time lag between caregivers. All of that is real. But an inadequate care situation is worse than the temporary disruption of changing it.
When you do switch providers, your parent might need a week or two to adjust to a new person. That's normal. What shouldn't happen is that the new situation is immediately worse. If you're cycling through caregivers every month, that suggests something else is going on: your parent may have needs that home care alone can't meet, or the care level you can afford might not match what's actually necessary.
Each difficult situation teaches you something. If the first agency couldn't meet your parent's needs, the next one you interview will know more about what to ask. If a particular caregiver didn't work, you have better language for describing what kind of person would work. If your parent's needs are escalating faster than you expected, you might learn that you need to plan for the next transition sooner than you thought. Frustration is information.
The goal isn't perfect care. Home care is imperfect by nature. The goal is care that's good enough: reliable, respectful, attentive to your parent's dignity, and honest about what it can and can't provide. When you find that, you'll know it. And you'll hold onto it, knowing that it's fragile and temporary, like most valuable things in life.
How To Help Your Elders provides educational content for family caregivers. This is not a substitute for professional medical, legal, or financial advice. Every family situation is different; what works for one may not work for another.